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Don’t be a firefighter

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Don’t be a firefighter. It is easy to become one. Get into crisis mode and deal with your problems only when they threaten to consume you and you cannot ignore them anymore. Once you are a firefighter, it can be hard to give up the job. It keeps you busy. But it is a dangerous choice because it can be all consuming. Fires can flare up all around you as you stand in a burning house that cannot be saved. And you are likely to burn with it. Instead, slow down and breathe. Find a moment of peace so you …

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social media, personal information, sharing

Private vs. Personal

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Social media encourages sharing. But sharing too much can get us into all sorts of trouble. But not sharing can make us come across as aloof. So how much is enough? And what is too much? If the information, image or video is about you (and you only) and can help or support another person or group of people and you are willing to share in order to create change, then it is personal. You have opinions, ideas, and experiences that shared, can change the world. Go out and change the world. If the information, image or video is intended …

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She’s just looking for attention

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You have heard it. We have all heard it. You might have even said it. “She’s just looking for attention.” The way she is dressed. The way she is behaving. We even say it about someone who is abusing drugs or alcohol or who has attempted to take her own life. And yes she is looking for someone to recognize her desperate cry for help. She is not JUST looking for attention. What do we really mean when we say that? Well, I speak a couple of languages and I know this dialect. Here are some of the things we …

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skirts, women, shaming, sexy, intelligence

Short skirts and talent

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The length of a woman’s skirt does not correlate with her level of intelligence. Shorter skirts do not equal less talent or intelligence. In fact, there is no correlation with clothing and intelligence at all. When you equate them, you demonstrate your lack of logic and critical thinking skills. I have never seen a single scientific study on the subject. And when you attempt to shame her, shame on you.

Leadership vs. Management

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According to the Oxford Dictionary: Management is “the process of dealing with or controlling things or people.” Leadership is “the action of leading a group of people or an organization, or the ability to do this.” According to real life (and this is a true story…) Management is telling a coffee shop employee with a broken arm not to try a new way but rather to find someone else who can follow the rules. Management is telling him to do only what he can handle doing, according to the rules. Leadership is allowing that employee to try a …

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Everything is a choice

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Everything is a choice, including inaction. There is no such thing as an innocent bystander. I didn’t do it. I didn’t hit the guy, I just watched those other three guys hit him. I didn’t think he would get seriously injured. I didn’t think. I defend myself by saying I didn’t do anything. I didn’t step in and stop it. I didn’t call the police. I didn’t look for someone who could help. I didn’t do anything. And doing nothing, inaction, was a choice. And choice means responsibility. Pretending that I have no culpability because I didn’t do anything …

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Racism

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Racism exists yet I hear (mostly white) people making statements about how little racism exists in today’s world, like a little bit is okay. Or deny its existence, often using faulty logic to back up those claims, “I don’t see it so it must not be happening.” Laws against racism are vital. But it should not end there. Laws can push the problem below the surface, like a dormant volcano. A dormant volcano can look harmless, and we can all stand around pretending and deny what is lurking beneath. It leaves us with a false sense of security. Everything …

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Habits are neutral

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Habits are neutral. A habit is nothing more than a repeated behaviour learned deep enough that we expend minimal energy (physical and mental energy) to perform that behaviour. Crossing the street. Yelling at our kid for slamming the door. Talking rather than listening. Saving and investing our money. Habits allow us to conserve energy or put our energy into new activities, unfamiliar activities, and still cross the street safely and build our investment portfolios. You can allow old habits, old patterns to rule you. Or you can rule them. You have the power to build the habits you want, …

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Love. Accept. Know.

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First love. Then accept. Then know. We mostly do this backwards. We get to know another person and then decide if we accept them. Finally, we decide if they are ‘worthy’ of our love. No wonder so many of us feel unworthy. Let’s flip that around. You get a call that your daughter has done something and you must go to the school. First, love your daughter, no strings attached. No matter what she has done, love her. Accept her for where she is at that moment, even if it is a place you would rather her not be, …

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