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Everything is a choice

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Everything is a choice, including inaction. There is no such thing as an innocent bystander. I didn’t do it. I didn’t hit the guy, I just watched those other three guys hit him. I didn’t think he would get seriously injured. I didn’t think. I defend myself by saying I didn’t do anything. I didn’t step in and stop it. I didn’t call the police. I didn’t look for someone who could help. I didn’t do anything. And doing nothing, inaction, was a choice. And choice means responsibility. Pretending that I have no culpability because I didn’t do anything …

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Racism

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Racism exists yet I hear (mostly white) people making statements about how little racism exists in today’s world, like a little bit is okay. Or deny its existence, often using faulty logic to back up those claims, “I don’t see it so it must not be happening.” Laws against racism are vital. But it should not end there. Laws can push the problem below the surface, like a dormant volcano. A dormant volcano can look harmless, and we can all stand around pretending and deny what is lurking beneath. It leaves us with a false sense of security. Everything …

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Habits are neutral

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Habits are neutral. A habit is nothing more than a repeated behaviour learned deep enough that we expend minimal energy (physical and mental energy) to perform that behaviour. Crossing the street. Yelling at our kid for slamming the door. Talking rather than listening. Saving and investing our money. Habits allow us to conserve energy or put our energy into new activities, unfamiliar activities, and still cross the street safely and build our investment portfolios. You can allow old habits, old patterns to rule you. Or you can rule them. You have the power to build the habits you want, …

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Love. Accept. Know.

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First love. Then accept. Then know. We mostly do this backwards. We get to know another person and then decide if we accept them. Finally, we decide if they are ‘worthy’ of our love. No wonder so many of us feel unworthy. Let’s flip that around. You get a call that your daughter has done something and you must go to the school. First, love your daughter, no strings attached. No matter what she has done, love her. Accept her for where she is at that moment, even if it is a place you would rather her not be, …

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The Window

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The Window When I am feeling down I stare out the window. I become separated from reality, I am the audience, instead of another actress, In another act in a long endless play. When I am feeling cold I cuddle up by the window. There I can feel the warmth of the fire, As I watch people walking through the rain, And the traffic fighting the storm. When I am feeling young I sit by the window. I watch the raindrop roll down the window pane, And then wait with anticipation, For the rainbow that always follows. When I …

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She should all over me

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As a follow up to last week’s post. She should all over me. She had tons of should up the wazoo and she dumped her should on me. And I had a choice. I could stand there and get should on. Take the should she was dishing out and probably land up shoulding all over someone else. Or I could step out of the way and live a clean and happy shouldless life. It is easier to move through life when you are not wading through a pile of should.

Expectations suck

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You should. You should buy that. You should know I need you. You should have promoted me. You should notice my new shoes. You should make me soup when I am sick. I should be making more money by now. I should be married with children. I should go to that conference. I should clean the house. I should get up earlier. I should. Expectations = frustration, anger. Expectations can lead us down the garden path. Separate wants from shoulds. Really, who owes you? Society, a corporation, your parents, your partner, your children, yourself? We all want. …

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Busyness & Overwhelm

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We suffer busyness and overwhelm to the point of paralysis. We cannot do everything. Truth is, overwhelm stops us from doing anything. Try this. Do one thing. Focus on that one thing. Will you get it all done? Maybe. But you will get nothing done if you panic and sit on your hands. Or if you spend your energy fretting and worrying. ‘Maybe’ is better than ‘not a chance’. So give yourself a chance. Do one thing. Then pick another and do that. Once you do one thing, then another, you will be surprised how productive you can be. …

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Knowledge vs. Intelligence vs. Wisdom

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Knowledge vs. Intelligence vs. Wisdom According to the Oxford Dictionary… Knowledge is “facts, information, and skills acquired through experience or education; the theoretical or practical understanding of a subject. The sum of what is known.” Intelligence is “the ability to acquire and apply knowledge and skills.” Wisdom is “the quality of having an experience, knowledge and good judgment.” According to real life… Let’s imagine, you have a grandmother who loves to knit. Knowledge is knowing that she loves to knit. Knowledge is knowing… What colours she likes to knit. When she likes to knit. Where she likes to knit. For …

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Watch your thoughts, they become words; watch your words, they become actions

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“Watch Your Thoughts, They Become Words; Watch Your Words, They Become Actions” Who said these words first is up for discussion with similar quotes being attributed to a variety of sources. No matter who said it first, this is valuable information that can be difficult to know deeply. Everything is created as a thought first, an idea, before it can become a physical reality. First, you think something up, then you believe you can do it, and then you do it and it becomes a reality. If you cannot think it up, or believe you can do it, you …

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